Common relationship problems and solutions


Everyone shares various type of different relationships but sometimes the issues are mostly the same. Whatever problems you are going through in your relationship it’s actually comforting to know that you are not alone in this world. There are some relationship problems that can be solved if acted consciously. Counselling or Relationship Counselling falls under the umbrella term talking therapy. The Relationship Counsellor allows the couple to discuss their problems and any difficult feelings they encounter in a safe, confidential, anonymous environment. The term can mean different things to different people, but in general it is a process where people speak to their psychologist for relationship advice. This is when they want to change something in their lives or simply explore their thoughts and feelings in more depth. At Aurum Wellness Marriage Counselling is conducted with couples in order to resolve relationship and Marriage problems right through the app.

  • The Problem of Communication
  • Who does the Home Chores?
  • Not keeping the Relationship a Priority
  • Conflict
  • Money
  • Trust

The Problem of Communication

  • Its necessary that both partners get to clearly communicate their thoughts when opting for Relationship Counselling.
  • Never interrupt your partner. Let them finish, take their confirmation on their finishing, ask them not to interrupt you while you speak, so that both get to put their views on.
  • Your body language is very important in the discussion, and you should maintain eye contact throughout. Don't be fidgtety. Its not about you as an individual, its about your relationship together, so keep the focus on that.

Who will do what work?

  • Believe it or not, this is one of the most common problems in a relationship. With both partners working, this further complicates the issue.
  • Get down and divide the home chores amongst yourselves. Try to keep a balance and keep likings and disliking evenly distributed as well. It's all about understanding and honest intentions.

Not keeping the Relationship a Priority

  • Go for outings, trips, long drives. They work great!
  • Do the chores together, go for grocery shopping together.
  • Relive some of the old memories, like coffee in your favorite cafe, a nearby vacation place etc.
  • Go to childhood places which are unknown to your partner. For example, you can take a visit to your first school together, and meet some old teachers and staff as well.

Conflict

  • It is your choice on how you react, and what effect you let have of others on you. Use your judgement
  • Block out that irritation. Only then you can think straight. Try not to hurt. Do not say anything that you will regret later saying. Take time in your response, choose your words, and then deliver. You may choose to not say something you want to, as well, so that you can think over it later and decide.
  • Dont try to defend yourself always. Try to accept when your partner is saying something against you. If it possible they are right and you need to accept it.
  • It's okay to apologize. Let go of your ego, apologize if you are wrong.Make your relationship stronger.

Money

  • Do Not blame each other, focus on solving the problem at hand.
  • Prepare a budget and try to stick to it.
  • Make goals to make your liabilities very few.
  • Think four times before making any expensive purchase. Do you really need it? Can you delay the purchase?
  • Make a plan to save.
  • Each person should be allowed to save some money for his personal spending and freedom.
  • Set short term, long term and family goals.
  • Care for your immediate family, set aside a budget for them as well.

Trust

  • Do not lie, even little white lies. They hurt the other person.
  • If you are not on time, inform your partner.
  • Be consistent. Do what you have said you will do.
  • Be fair to your partner, even in an argument.
  • TRy to be sensitive to your partner's feelings.
  • Try not to carry office's work home. Home is for spending time with your family.
  • Things might go wrong, mistakes may happen. Do not Overreact. Work towards solving the problem.
  • Words said cannot be taken back. Be careful of what you say.
  • Let buried things be buried. Do not dig up old issues and wounds.
  • Don't always judge.
  • Be a good listener. Be a help whenever possible.
  • Remember, relationship problems cannot always be avoided, but they can always be solved.